How do we learn to deeply love ourself?

Response from Tulku Lobsang:

Learn to love yourself by realizing that you are the solution of the universe. You are the solution to all problems. Other people's problems conclude in your own problems. Remember that when you love yourself this means that you are happy with yourself, happy with how you are. When you are happy with yourself there is no reason to make problems for others or for yourself. Loving yourself is the only way to love others. And loving others is the only way to be happy. When you are happy, that is the moment that we say you love yourself. Loving yourself is not only important in your own life, but also very important in the lives of others.

Loving yourself is actually very simple. Just be happy with how you are. My worry is that since loving yourself is so easy that maybe no one does this. Self love appears to be difficult not because it is complicated or difficult. Self love is so easy it doesn't cost anything. It becomes difficult only because it is so easy.

Loving others is also the way to love yourself. Loving yourself is also the way to love others. They are like east and west, inseparable. Whenever there is east there must also be west. And without west there is no east. Interdependent arising. Just start whichever way is easier for you.

~Tulku Lobsang

Answered on October 25, 2010
Vancouver, BC, Canada